Yes, you are worthy! Worthy to be treated with kindness, worthy of love, worthy of happiness, worthy of respect, worthy of living a toxic free life.
Those words sound good, doesn’t it? But, for many of us, those words are just what they are, words. You see, if you don’t feel it or believe it, then those words have no meaning. Maybe you have a hard time accepting it because society dictates to us who should be worthy of all things. By society standards, if you have wealth and status, you must be worthy of happiness and respect. If you are perceived as beautiful and thin, you must be worthy of love and kindness. And, if you have everything that I just listed, then you are certainly worthy of a toxic free life!
In my years of coaching, the search for constant acceptance and validation from other people are what women have the most struggle with. When there is rejection, judgement and criticism, the feeling of unworthiness starts to work itself in their mind.
So, what does it take to feel that you are good enough and to truly believe that you are deserving of worthiness?
Transform the way you view yourself
Embrace who you are and realize that you were uniquely created for a purpose. Think about it. There is no one and I MEAN no one on this earth that is like you. Spend time with yourself and get to know you, again. What are your gifts and talents? What are your passions and dreams? Once you discover or rediscover what those are, start putting them to use. Replace those negative thoughts with positive ones and start recognizing the goodness in you. The sooner you start, the better you’ll feel.
Say it until you believe it. Start telling yourself every day that you are good enough and worthy until you believe it. Speak it into existence. Start exercising. Physical health has a direct relationship to emotional and mental health. Exercising will energize you and boost your mood. If you want to see change, you must be committed to doing the work. Don’t allow anyone to define your worthiness. Waiting for someone to validate your worth or to make you happy will only lead to disappointments.
We often forget how fortunate we are because we concentrate on what we don’t have. Resentment can only come from this. This way of thinking will reduce who you are, question your abilities and stop you from knowing how amazing you are. Think about all the things that you should be grateful for and then write them down. You’ll be surprise to see how long your list is. Carry your list around with you and look at it as many times you can throughout the day and right before you go to bed at night. You’ll start to see yourself in a whole other way.
Fall in love with you
Appreciate yourself like you would your love ones. Embrace everything that makes who you are, the good and the bad. It could be your unique laugh, the way you sneeze or the way you chew your food. Learn to appreciate whatever quirks you may have. They’re what makes you, you! Get to know yourself by spending time with your thoughts. Learn what your needs and wants are. Once you start spending quality time with yourself, the more you’ll start to love yourself and the more you start to love yourself, the more you’ll start to acknowledge your self-worth. Don’t give away pieces of yourself to fit in. Celebrate who you are!
Surround Yourself with positive people
Our friends and love ones can have a positive or negative effect on our psyche. Transforming the way you see yourself also requires you to transform the way you see others.The negative people in your life will start to become more apparent to you when you begin to change within yourself. You’ll want to spend less time with them and start attracting positive, like-minded people into your life. It’s amazing how you’ll start to feel when you cut the negative people out of your life. Remember, who you hang out with is a reflection of you. Once you have a new perspective of yourself, you must surround yourself with people who will support and encourage you. Ditch the ones that will bring you down. Once you give yourself the love and acceptance that you seek from others, you’ll no longer be on a constant search for it.
The journey to your worthiness and knowing that you are good enough won’t be easy. It may take a while, but you’ll get there. Just enjoy and appreciate the process.